Forget Pleasing Others! 7 Unapologetic Ways To Please YOURSELF

Here's another pretty good piece from Your Tango on how to please yourself. Most times we are stuck on caring for others so much that we forget that we are equally as important as they are and we deserve twice as much care and loving/pleasing as we show to them. Here are seven ways to unapologetically please yourself as put by Jan Bowen of Tango.

1. Focus on the positive

Push away all negative thoughts, any self-doubts, worries or anyone else's voice in your head. Stay in a confident mindset with only positive thoughts. When this is difficult to do on your own, read books that reinforce the message you want to live, listen to music and watch shows that do the same.

2. Daydream

Pay attention to what gives you a lift of energy, a surge of enthusiasm — even if just slightly. Consider when was the last time you did something where you had so much fun you forgot what time it was. (The best type of fun.)

3. Play

We often forget to play in our routines. Whether it's a softball game, frisbee, dancing, coloring, painting, board games, or something else — just include play in your routine. Pets and kids are great excuses to get on the ground or floor and roll around or go to a playground.

4. Spend time alone

Allow time for ideas to percolate to the surface and provide them room to settle in.

5. Try different things

Just like spending time alone allows an opportunity for ideas, so does getting out and trying new things. If you've never tried scuba diving and always thought it looked fun, why not go to a dive center and find out more about upcoming classes? Explore the ideas that have come up in your alone time and experiment to see which you really like.

6. Spend time with people who you feel good around

Stop thinking about people who you want to change for, and spend time with people you feel good around now — people you like and who like you. Listen closely to what they say. Maybe one of the reasons you like them is because of some of their interests. You don't have to change to share interests. Refer to #5!

7. Maintain healthy habits

It's hard to feel good about yourself and set any exciting goals when you're overtired or hungry. Take care of the basics — eat healthy food, sleep conscientiously, take care of your household environment. We depend on the basics to move us forward to greater platforms!

By the time you get through at least a few off the list above, you begin to get an idea for what makes you happy. At the very least, you'll be concentrating more on what makes you tick and less on how to make someone think better of you! The more you impress yourself, the better you will feel.