SEX: Six Signs She's Thinking of Cheating (A MUST READ)

This article was written by the editors at Men's Health and i found it very interesting and insightful. 

Ever wondered why some ladies cheat on their partners? Have you as the guy ever thought of how to save your relationship if you have an issue like this at hand? 

Enjoy the intriguing piece.

Is She Being Unfaithful? 

            

First, let me defend the sisterhood by saying, many, many women don’t cheat. Especially when we are in happy relationships. If we are really into a guy, we’re loyal-from-first-kiss. Faithfulness is hardwired into our female circuitry, like our need to cuddle and buy shoes.

Now, the unfortunate exception: Some do. Okay, a lot do: The incidence of extramarital intercourse for women is 25%, and the estimate of single women who have cheated is even higher. And if a woman is going to cheat, there are surprisingly specific times when she’s likely to do it.

Pay attention, because even if you are sure your woman would never stray, the urge may pop up at one of these times. Then put our advice to work, because follow-through doesn't have to happen.

Birthday Sex

• He’s Turning 25 or 30 or 35 or ...

Decade and half-decade birthdays trigger navel-gazing-figuratively, and perhaps literally. A woman asks herself, “What have i been doing for the past 5 years?”

“She’ll think deeply about her love life and its direction, and if it’s not going the way she planned, she might jump at the chance to correct it with an affair”, says Don-David Lusterman, Ph.D., a psychologist and the author of infidelity: A Survival Guide.

The incidence of birthday cheating triples in women who report being in unhappy relationships, according to a survey by infidelity.com.

The Plan: Be there. There are two nights when every straight woman wants a man in her bed: New Year’s Eve and her birthday. Leave her solo and you’re giving her permission-and reason-to cheat. And remember, birthday sex is about the birthday girl. Presents are good too. Especially jewelry.

• She’s Been Promoted

Women like to have projects and goals. When she reaches a milestone-say, in her career-she may start to think, Now what? Says Bonnie Eaker Weil, Ph.D., author of Can We Forgive Adultery? Staying Not Straying. For her next challenge, she may focus on another big part of her life-say, her relationship. Riding the high of her work success, she’ll feel that goals are achievable, and she’ll be motivated to get the rest of her life on track.

Also, women with fat salaries are more likely to cheat. A University of Washington study found that people who earned $75,000 or more per year were 1.5 times more likely to have had extramarital sex than those earning less than $30,000.

The plan: Brag about your woman’s promotion.

“Most guys make the mistake of not doing enough to celebrate their girlfriends’ accomplishments,” says Scott Haltzman, M.D., a clinical assistant professor of psychiatry and human behaviour at Brown University. “When she sees you honouring her, she’ll feel as valued by you as she does at work.”

Translation: She won’t look for that emotion elsewhere-like in the marketing veep’s bed. 

Talk About Her In Your Future

• She’s Moving In With You

Yes, it was probably her idea. But now that you are together 24-7 and sharing every detail of your lives, there’s not as great a need to keep the conversation flowing every minute.

“She could subconsciously interpret this as meaning that you think she’s boring,” says Stuart Fischoff, Ph.D., a professor of psychology at California State University at Los Angeles. “If there’s someone else around who finds her attractive and intriguing and shows it- she might go for him instead.” (A menshealth.com survey found that 41 percent of women who've cheated did it with a co-worker.)

And again, with the whole goal thing-now that you've moved in together, she’ll be thinking about the next step, such as engagement or marriage.

“Face it, most women want marriage, and they want to have children,” says Susan Heitler, Ph.D., author of The Power of Two. “If you’re withholding either or both, you’re inviting the risk of her turning to someone else who can make that commitment and give her children.”

The Plan: Make it clear that you are thinking of living together as a starting point.

Talk about the future. Talk about her in your future.

Cheating

• She Thinks You’ve Cheated

Revenge affairs are common. Women have them in an attempt to restore self-esteem and feel desirable again.

“It comes down to human nature,” Heitler says. “She’ll want to get even.” She won’t necessarily go out looking to hook up, but when she’s tempted, the fact that you’ve done it may weaken her self-control.

The plan: If you are cheating or have cheated before, confess and apologise.

A survey conducted by Peggy Vaughan, author of The Monogamy Myth, showed that 86 percent of couples who discussed one partner’s affair were still married, compared with 59 percent of couples who barely talked about it.

If you’re not cheating, you have one paranoid woman on your hands. She probably has low self-confidence. Your job: Compliment her sincerely, specifically, and often.

“You can make her feel better about herself so she won’t become vulnerable to these unfounded suspicions,” Fischoff says.

Get Naked

• She’s Not Getting Enough

Oxytocin, a hormone that plays a central role in our urge to bond, spikes to levels three to five times higher than usual just before orgasm. The hormone is more intense in females than in males, so women develop a stronger sense of bonding through sex.

“If the two of you are not having as much sex as you used to, she might interpret this as a sign that you don’t find her attractive and that you don’t love her,” Fischoff says. “She may seek someone outside the relationship to validate that she’s still sexually attractive.”

A so-so sex life could also mean you have unresolved problems between you. Research conducted by Shirley Glass, Ph.D., author of Not Just Friends, found that 79 percent of cheating women cited dissatisfaction in the marriage as the cause.

The plan: Have more sex.

If she’s the one who doesn’t want sex, investigate why. Fix it. GET NAKED.

• She’s Ready to Bolt

One more reason a woman might cheat: She wants to dump you. Infidelity can break up couples, so she might cheat on purpose as an easy out.

David Buss, a Ph.D., a professor of psychology at the University of Texas at Austin and the author of The Evolution of Desire, asked 100 men and women which tactic they would use to get out of a bad relationship. One of the most common answers: Start an affair.

The plan: She sucks-let her go.

You’re free!

There it is fellas. Hope you enjoyed the read as much as i did? And most importantly, i hope you learnt a thing or two? 

2FACE IDIBIA'S FAMILY RELEASES STATEMENT OVER FATHERS DEATH (RIP PA IDIBIA)

This is a really trying time for 2Face Idibia and his entire family as they loose their Dad. (More after the cut...)

2Face Idibia

Sadly, Pa Michael Agbo Idibia (Pictured Below), 2Face Idibia's Father passed on in an Abuja Hospital last weekend, August 23, 2014 after battling cancer for over a year at the age of 68 years old ( See more after the cut...)

Late Pa Michael Idibia (RIP)

Following his death, the family has released a statement;

"With sadness in our hearts, but with gratitude to God for a life well spent, we announce the passing on of our father, brother, uncle and in-law, Mr. Michael Agbo Idibia, a native of Okpokwu Edumoga in Benue State.

Born on July 25, 1946, Mr Idibia is an alumnus of Kansas State University, USA, and retired from the Ministry of Agriculture, Makurdi, Benue State.

He is survived by wife, Mrs. Rose Owoyi Idibia, Children: Steven Idibia, Innocent '2face' Idibia, Hyacinth Idibia and Oche Idibia, grand-children, and siblings.

May his soul rest in peace. Burial arrangements will be announced soon."

JUMPSUITS: Beautiful Ways Of Rocking It..

Jumpsuits have become a must have in any girls wardrobe. Whether it’s for parties, weddings, office or just casual outings, from straight legs to open cuts and floral's, they are simply a sure way to go.

 Personally, i can’t do without a pair of them in my collections because it’s super easy to wear with no need to coordinate.

 Shoes and accessories are also vital to looking beautiful in one and doing it the wrong way could make even a neck breaking Jumpsuit look dumb.

 Here are a few ways on how to Rock and make a statement with that jumpsuit of yours.

Statement Waist Clincher

• Ensure you have the Proper fit that Defines your waist.

     Getting a jumpsuit that fits properly is the first step required in rocking a jumpsuit beautifully. Size is very important. Also, a slouchy, straight-up-and-down jumpsuit can be cool too, but clinching in the waist is a great way to define your shape and add a little extra feminity to your look. Belts are the go-to, of course but tying a lightweight jacket or shirt around your waist can look pretty chic too and it has the added benefit of hiding that whole oblong-butt thing that sometimes happen when you clinch in the waist on a loose, flowy jumpsuit.

Cream Jumpsuit with Leather Jacket

• Mix Hard and Soft

     A leather jacket and chunky metallic jewelry are great for adding a little edge to a feminine and        flowy pastel jumpsuit. If you are a jumpsuit virgin, layering it underneath a jacket makes the          look more subtle. Pick tones that are similar.

Bold Colored Jumpsuit

• Go For Bold Color

     Bright colors are automatic attention-getters, great for those times when you want to show off        your shape.

Jumpsuit with Heels

• Add A Heel

    When in doubt, add a heel. Even the most Utilitarian-looking jumpsuit can be completely                transformed by a good pair of heels.

All Black Jumpsuit

• Go For All Black

    Of course black is always a good choice: It's slimming and sophisticated. The Halter neck and         Armless black is especially Perfect for toned shoulders.

Loose Cut Jumpsuit

• Look For A Loose Cut

     Draping and flattering jumpsuits are always perfect and a        go

 There you go ladies... What look works for you or do you think would work for you? You could add a few of your own tips so we can all learn together.

Credits: Cosmopolitan Magazine

                             More pictures after  the cut....

  

EXCLUSIVE: Patrick Sawyers Wife, Decontee Sawyer Apologizes to Nigerians {MUST READ}

After reading Decontee Sawyer‘s open letter, a Blogger Peace Ben William was very upset and wrote her an open letter which went viral. Decontee is Patrick Sawyer’s widow; the Liberian man who died of the Ebola virus in Lagos.

According to Peace, Decontee contacted her yesterday night; revealing to her some hidden truths about herself and Mr. Sawyer which left her almost in tears. She urged Peace to beg Nigerians for her. However, some parts of her second letter have edited as she requested for privacy. It’s long but please be patient and listen to her…

For her apology letter, click Decontee Sawyer's Apology Letter to Nigerians

Decontee Sawyer Needs To Apologize to Nigerians and The Liberian President

It is no longer news that the name Patrick Sawyer is synonymous with Ebola in Nigeria. Recently his wife Decontee Sawyer came out to defend his actions. Here is an open letter to her by a Blogger (Peace Ben Williams) and i subscribe to it in my entirety.

Dear Decontee Sawyer,

I am moved to write you this letter based on your recent open letter defending why your husband decided to infest Nigeria with the fatal Ebola virus.

I had refrained from penning my thoughts on how irresponsible your husband’s behaviour was, mainly because he was a human being who had a right to life like myself and also because he had left loved ones like you and his children behind who miss him everyday.

However, your recent letter has convinced me that you deserve no pity whatsoever and has prompted me to enlighten you on what you seem to have so deliberately ignored.

You and your husband are full-fledged citizens of the United States of America. Everybody knows that the medical system in the United States is far more advanced than that of Nigeria. So if your husband’s sole intention was to seek medical help, why did he not contact the health authorities in the America?

Nigeria does not have the best health care system in Africa and that is a fact. If you and your husband were reading the news, you’d have known that a lot of Nigerians travel to South Africa, India and the UK for medical attention. I’m stressing this fact for non-Nigerians who may not understand how the system in my country works. No Nigerian would take your callous excuse with a pinch of salt!

You had the nerve to apologise to your friends, Catherine and Josh for “contacting them so early.” But you didn’t deem it fit to pay your condolences to the family of the two nurses who died from caring for your sick husband? What about the ECOWAS staff who died because he had primary contact with your husband while helping him in Lagos? Did they also not “have a passion for life”? Do you think these people wanted to take a chance with their lives when they knew their loved ones also depended on them?

I heard unconfirmed reports that Patrick Sawyer‘s late sister was engaged to be married to a Nigerian who fled Liberia when he heard that she was infected with the Ebola virus, leaving Patrick with no choice than to care for his sister. This was why Patrick came to Nigeria on a vendetta mission to pass the virus. I also heard he urinated on the nurses who cared for him; yelling in anger when he was told that he had EVD.

I dismissed these stories as unfounded rumours, until Nurse Justina Obi Ejelonu gave an eye witness account of how irrationally your husband behaved while on admission in a Lagos hospital-yanking off his IV infusion and squirting blood on the nurses and janitors. Justina was a young, intelligent and ambitious lady who was full of life. Your husband cut short her dreams and the dreams of many others by one careless act of boarding a plane to Nigeria.

What’s going on now in Nigeria? I’ll tell you! A nursing mother and her breast-feeding baby were infected with EVD when they visited the hospital your husband died in. Scores of Nigerians are being quarantined in Ebola isolation centres; their work, businesses and daily hustles paralyzed. People are panicking all over the country. At least two people have died from drinking concentrated salty water because they were pranked into believing that salt and water were a cure for Ebola. The Nigerian government has given out 1.9 billion naira (about $11.8million) to fight the spread of Ebola in the country. This was not in the initial national budget. The resumption date of schools in the country may be postponed indefinitely until the virus can be contained. This means that students preparing for external exams such as WAEC and SSCE may be adversely affected; the whole school calendar will be affected. I’m surprised you didn’t acknowledge the impact your husband’s deadly visit is having on the most populous nation in Africa.

Instead, you dismissed the efforts of the medical team who risked their lives to handle your husband as “ironic.”

CCTV footage showed your husband avoiding contact with people at Monrovia airport, some reports even say he was rolling on the floor in pains at some point. Sebastian Muah, who until recently was the Liberian Deputy Minister of Finance for Fiscal Affairs, said in an email to PREMIUM TIMES that the late Mr. Sawyer deceived the Liberian government into believing that he was “Ebola Free’’. He LIED to the Liberian government that he had no contact with his younger sister who died of the disease on July 8 and that he had voluntarily subjected himself for testing which showed he was free of Ebola.

Nigeria was free of Ebola until July 20 when Mr. Sawyer arrived. He became terribly ill on his flight and was rushed to the First Consultant Hospital Obalende, Lagos, where he died on July 24. Since then, a nation of over 160 million people are being faced with a fast-killing disease they have no idea about how to handle. We had no prior knowledge of how to combat this disease, so why would your husband choose Nigeria of all places for “help”? If we were so ‘competent’ why are we begging foreign countries to send us experimental drugs?

Decontee Sawyer, you owe the government of Nigeria and its people an apology. You also owe your Liberian president, Mrs. Ellen Johnson Sirleaf an apology because she has not failed her country like you claim. Your letter has portrayed you as a callous and selfish woman just like your husband. I leave you to your conscience.

I may not join other Nigerians to say “may Patrick Sawyer rot in hell,” because I believe I may not have the right to say that. But the name of Patrick Sawyer will always resound as a man who brought death to the most populous nation in Africa. A man who gifted Nigeria with no beneficial service, but a ZOMBIE VIRUS. I will always remember Patrick Sawyer as a medical terrorist.

How to wear an eyeliner as a Beginner

This is meant to be my first post to teach beautiful ladies out there without the knowledge of how to use an eyeliner. This article is supposed to focus on what types of eyeliners are good for beginners, and how to wear them from the start to finish.

This is a lazy work for today. I am stopping here. Lol. For further information, please look up Eyeliner.